Talking the Talk

"One of the greatest challenges we face on a daily basis is not what students do to one another.  In fact, sadly, it is what is said by some of my colleagues about the students." -Alternative High School Educator, Ohio

One simple yet important way to be an ally is to use LGBT-related terminology accurately and respectfully.  The best way to ensure that you are using the proper language when referring to an individual is to find out the terms they themselves prefer.

Language has a huge impact on the way that we see others and ourselves, and yet, language is constantly changing.  That is why it is important to familiarize yourself and keep up-to-date with LGBT-related terms and concepts.  Begin by completing the "Terminology Match-Up" below.

TERMINOLOGY MATCH-UP


How much LGBT-related terminology do you already know?  On the left is a set of LGBT-related terms, on the right are definitions of these terms.  To test your knowledge, select the matching definition for each term.

1.      Sexual Orientation 2.      Lesbian 3.      Gender Identity 4.      Gender Expression 5.      Transgender 6.      Gay 7.      Gender Non-Conforming 8.      Androgynous 9.      Bisexual 10.  Transphobia 11.  Homophobia 12.  Heterosexism 13.  Queer

A.    The irrational fear or aversion to transgender people or those who are perceived to break or blur societal norms regarding gender identity or gender expression. B.     The inner feelings of who we are attracted or oriented to sexually or emotionally. C.     Refers to an irrational fear of or aversion to homosexuality or lesbian, gay or bisexual people. D.    An identity of a person whose gender identity is not aligned with their sex assigned at birth and/or whose gender expression is non-conforming. E.     An individual’s physical characteristics, behaviors and presentation that are traditionally linked to either masculinity or femininity, such as: appearance, dress, mannerism, speech patterns and social interactions. F.      A sexual orientation and/or identity of a person who is female-identified and who is sexually and emotionally attracted to other females. G.    A sexual orientation and/or identity of a person who is sexually and emotionally attracted to males and females. H.    Applies to attitudes, bias and discrimination in favor of heterosexual sexuality and relationships.  It includes the presumption that everyone is heterosexual or that male/female attractions and relationships are the norm and therefore superior.  It is the belief that everyone is, or should be, straight. I.       A sexual orientation and/or identity of a person who is sexually and emotionally attracted to members of the same sex. J.       How we identify ourselves in term of our gender. K.    An identity of a person who has gender characteristics and/or behaviors that do not conform to traditional or societal gender expectations. L.     An umbrella term used to describe a sexual orientation, gender identity or gender expression that does not conform to heteronormative society. M.   Having the characteristics or nature of both maleness and femaleness; neither specifically feminine nor masculine.

Answer Key: B, F, J, E, D, I, K, M, G, A, C, H, L  

ASK YOURSELF

• Which terms were you most familiar with? Which were you unfamiliar with?
• What terms are you most comfortable using? Are there any terms you are uncomfortable using? Why?