Saturday, July 30, 2011

Educate, Part 1: Teach Respect

 As an ally you have the opportunity to educate about anti-LGBT bias, it effects and ways to combat in order to create safer, more welcoming school environments.  This three part section will cover:
  • Teach students to respect others.
  • Include positive representations of LGBT people, history and events into your curriculum.
  • Engage other staff about anti-LGBT bias and ways to create safer schools.
TEACH RESPECT

There are many ways to teach students the importance of respecting all people, regardless of their sexual orientation, gender identity or gender expression.  You school could implement a comprehensive school-wide program like GLSEN's No Name-Calling Week.  Or, you may incorporate individual lessons into your curriculum or group activities.  Here are a few resources that educators can use to teach respect and prevent harassment and bulling among students.


"It's amazing how enthralled students will get when there are actual people they can connect with, representing the issues around diversity, discrimination, etc." -School Counselor Ohio

NO NAME-CALLING WEEK LESSON PLANS

No Name-Calling Week is an annual week of educational activities aimed at ending name-calling of all kinds and providing schools with the tools and inspiration to launch an ongoing dialogue about ways to eliminate bullying in their communities.  Nevertheless, the accompanying lesson plans are available year-round and can be used at any time.  For information about program and free elementary and secondary-level plans visit: http://www.nonamecallingweek.org.

THINKB4YOUSPEAK EDUCATOR'S GUIDE

GLSEN has created an educator's guide to accompany its public service awareness campaign, created in partnership with the Ad Council, about the hurtful and demeaning term "that's so gay." The guide assists middle and high school educators in facilitating student learning about the negative consequences of homophobic language and anti-LGBT bullying.  The core of the guide consists of six educational activities that increase awareness and knowledge of the issues, develop skills for addressing them and promote social action.  Each lesson and activity can be used on its own or in conjunction with the others.  To download the free guide, visit: http://www.ThinkB4YouSpeak.com/ForEducators.

Friday, July 29, 2011

Support, Part 4: Support Student Clubs

 For many LGBT students, student clubs that address LGBT student issues (commonly called Gay-Straight Alliances or GSAs) offer critical support.  These clubs are student-led, usually at the high school or middle school level, and work to address anti-LGBT name-calling, bullying and harassment in their schools and promote respect for all students.  The existence of these clubs can make schools feel safer and more welcoming for LGBT students.  GLSEN's National School Climate Survey has found compared to LGBT students without a GSA, students in schools with a GSA or similar student club:

  • Reported hearing fewer homophobic remarks;
  • Experienced less harassment and assault because of their sexual orientation and/or gender expression;
  • Were more likely to report incidents of harassment and assault;
  • Were less likely to feel unsafe because of their sexual orientation or gender expression;
  • Were less likely to miss school because of safety concerns, and
  • Reported a greater sense of belonging to their school community.
"Only slightly more than a third (36.3%) of LGBT students reported having a Gay-Straight Alliance (GSA) or similar student club at their school." -2007 National School Climate Survey


GSAs, like all student clubs, must have a faculty advisor.  Serving as the advisor for your school's GSA is one important way that you can be an ally to LGBT students.  Not only does being an advisor allow you to help the efforts of your GSA, it makes you more visible as an ally to all members of your school community, making it easier for LGBT students to identify supportive school staff.

As an ally, you may also need to advocate for the rights of students to establish a GSA in their school.  Although some opponents of GSAs have attempted to restrict the existence of or access to these clubs, the federal Equal Access Act of 1984 requires public schools to allow GSAs to exist alongside other non-curricular student clubs.

For information about starting a GSA or GSA activities, download GLSEN's Jump-Start Guide for Gay-Straight Alliances at: www.glsen.org/jumpstart.

PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER: DOs AND DON'Ts OF BEING AN ALLY TO LGBT STUDENTS


DO…
DON’T…
Listen.  One of the simplest yet most important ways to be an ally is to listen.  Like all students, LGBT students need to feel comfortable expressing themselves.  If a student comes to talk to you about being harassed, feeling excluded or just about their life in general, keep in mind that you may be the only person they feel safe speaking to.  Be there to listen.
Think you have all the answers.  Do not feel that you must always have the answers.  If you are faced with a problem you don’t know how to solve, let the student know you will look into the subject to try to find an answer.  Sometimes the best thing for you to do is to refer the student to an outside source that may be able to help them.
Respect confidentiality.  Effective allies will respect their students’ confidentiality and privacy.  Someone who is coming out may not want everyone to know.  Assume that the person only to you and just wants you to know, unless they indicate otherwise.  Informing others can create an unsafe environment for the student.
Make unrealistic promises.  Be careful not to promise something you may not be able to deliver.  This can damage the relationship you have with the student as an ally.
Be conscious of your biases.  Effective allies acknowledge how homophobia, transphobia and heterosexism may affect their efforts to be an ally to LGBT people.  They continuously work to recognize and challenge their own biases.
Make assumptions.  It is important to avoid making assumptions and perpetuating stereotypes.  These can be extremely offensive and may turn a student away from you.  It is also important to avoid assuming you know what the student needs.  Be sure to listen to you student and ask how you can support them.
Seek out knowledge.  Effective allies periodically brush up on LGBT-related language and current issues facing the LGBT community.

Be a resource.  An effective ally will also know when how to refer students to outside help.



ASK YOURSELF
  • Which of these strategies are you most likely to use in your school?
  • Are there other strategies that you have used when intervening in anti-LGBT language, harassment and bullying in your school?

Thursday, July 28, 2011

Support, Part 3: Responding to Anti-LGBT Language and Behavior


Anti-LGBT behavior comes in all shapes and sizes: biased language, name-calling, harassment and even physical assault.  GLSEN's National School Climate survey consistently finds that many LGBT students regularly hear homophobic slurs, such as "faggot" or "dyke," at school, and most students have been verbally or physically harassed in school.  Youth who regularly experience harassment can suffer from low self-esteem, high rates of absenteeism and low academic achievement.  Educators can make a difference by intervening in anti-LGBT name-calling, bullying and harassment every time they witness it.  Taking action when you see it occur can help create a safe space for all students.  Intervening on the spot will also serve as a teachable moment to let other students know that anti-LGBT behavior will not be tolerated.  One of the most effective things you can do as an ally is respond to anti-LGBT behavior.


HOW TO INTERVENE IN NAME-CALLING, BULLYING AND HARASSMENT

Follow these steps when you witness anti-LGBT name-calling, bullying or harassment.

  1. Address Name-Calling, Bullying or Harassment Immediately.  Concentrate on stopping the behavior at that moment.  Sometimes it's a simple response to hearing a derogatory term, such as: "That language is unacceptable in this classroom."  Make sure that everyone can hear you.  Never miss the opportunity to interrupt the behavior.  Remember: inaction is in itself an action - if an incident is overlooked or not addressed, your silence can imply acceptance and approval.
  2. Name the Behavior.  Describe what you saw and label the behavior.  "I heard you use the word faggot and that is derogatory and is considered name-calling.  That language is unacceptable."
  3. Use the Teachable Moment (or Create One).  Make sure to educate after stopping the behavior.  Decide if you are going to educate in the moment or later, and if it will be done publicly or privately.  If you decide to educate later you will need to create the teachable moment.  You can then take this opportunity to teach one class, the entire grade or the whole school about language and behaviors that are acceptable and those that are not.
  4. Support the Targeted Student.  Support the student who has been the target of the name-calling, bullying or harassment.  Do  not make assumptions about what the student is experiencing.  Ask the student what they need or want.  You will have to decide whether to do this in the moment or later, and if it will be done publicly or privately.  Suggest that the student visit with a counselor only if the student requests extra support.
  5. Hold Students Accountable.  Check school policy and impose appropriate consequences.  Make sure disciplinary actions are evenly applied across all types of name-calling, bullying and harassment.
WHAT DO I SAY WHEN THEY SAY "THAT'S SO GAY"? RESPONDING TO UNINTENTIONAL ANTI-LGBT LANGUAGE

Almost all LGBT students regularly hear the word "gay" used in a negative way at school.  Though many downplay the impact of expressions like "that's so gay" because they have become such a common part of the vernacular and are often not intended to inflict harm, most LGBT students say that hearing "gay" or "queer" used in the negative manner causes them to feel bothered or distressed.  Especially because these expressions are so pervasive in our schools, it is critical that an ally treat this like all other types of anti-LGBT language and address it.

Not all students may understand why this language is offensive, so you may need to educate the students on why this is anti-LGBT language.  For example, as them why they would use "gay" to mean something is bad or boring.  Let them know that it is offensive and hurtful to LGBT people when they use "gay" to describe something as undesirable.  When challenged on using this type of language, a common response from students and adults is that they did not mean "gay" to mean "homosexual." They may say that it's just and expression and they don't mean any harm by it.  The chart below suggest some strategies for dealing with these types of responses, including the benefits and challenges of each strategy.

Fr public service announcements, lesson plans, discussion guides and other resources that address anti-LGBT language, visit http://www.ThinkB4YouSpeak.com/ForEducators

POSSIBLE RESPONSES TO "THAT'S SO GAY"


RESPONSES
BENEFITS

CHALLENGES
 “What do you mean by that?”
Doesn’t dismiss it.
Students might not be forthcoming.
“How do you think a gay person might feel?”
Puts responsibility on the student to come up with the solution.
Student may not say anything.
“Do you say that as a compliment?”
Asking this rhetorical question in a non-accusatory tone may lighten things up enough for your student to shake their heads and admit, “No.”
Students may just laugh off your question, or reiterate that they’re “Just joking.”
“So the connotations are negative?” or “So maybe it’s not a good thing?”
Not accusatory.  Could open up the floor for discussion.
There’s always the chance that students will still be reluctant to speak up.

Wednesday, July 27, 2011

Support, Part 2: Supporting Students When They Come Out

As an ally, LGBT students may come to you for support, comfort or guidance.  You may encounter a situation where a student comes out or reveals their sexual orientation or gender identity to you.  You may be the first or only person an LGBT student comes out to.  It is important that you support the student in a constructive way.  Keep in mind that the student may be completely comfortable with their sexual orientation and may not need help dealing with it, or may not be in need of any support.  It may be that the student just wanted to tell someone, or just simply to tell you so you might know them better.  Below you will find some information on the coming out process and how you can be a supportive ally when students come out to you.

WHAT DOES "COMING OUT" MEAN?

Simply put, coming out is a means to publicly declare one's identity, whether to a person in private or a group of people.  In our society most people are generally presumed to be heterosexual, so there is usually no need for a heterosexual person to make a statement to others that discloses their sexual orientation.  Similarly, most people feel that their current gender is aligned with their sex assigned at birth, therefore never having a need to disclose their gender identity.  However, a person who is LGBT must decide whether or not to reveal to others their sexual orientation or gender identity.

To come out is to take a risk by sharing one's identity, sometimes to one person in conversation, sometimes to a group or in a public setting.  The actual act of coming out can be as simple as saying "I'm gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgender," but it can be a difficult and emotional process for an LGBT student to go through, which is why it is so important for a student to have support.  One positive aspect of coming out is not having to hide who you are anymore.  However, there can be dangers that come with revealing yourself.  A student who comes out may be open to more anti-LGBT name-calling, bullying and harassment, yet they may also feel more comfortable and free to be themselves.  One of the most important things you as an ally can do for an LGBT student is to be there for them in a safe, respectful and helpful way.

SNAP SHOT - Anti-LGBT Bias in School

Renisha was a 15-year -old freshman who had just started at the school where her older brother Michael was a junior.  Renisha decided that at this new school, she was going to be herself and not hide that she's a lesbian as she did in junior high.  Michael's friends had begun to make fun of his little sister and Michael always defended her, telling his friends "leave her alone, she's just being herself."  Michael's friends continued to tease Renisha calling her "dyke" from across the lunchroom and defacing her locker with anti-LGBT language.  Michael decided that this had gone too far and demanded his friends leave his little sister alone.  One of his friends started to tease Michael, asking him if "being queer runs in the family."  The words had barely made it out of the boy's mouth before Michael punched him.  The other friends backed off and stopped the teasing, but Michael was suspended from school for a week and kicked off the basketball team for fighting.

SHOULD SCHOOL STAFF BE CAREFUL ABOUT DISCLOSING A STUDENT'S SEXUAL ORIENTATION OR GENDER IDENTITY TO OTHERS?

"Reporting causes more problems.  Teachers and staff do not know how to handle the problem anonymously." -Student, Grade Not Reported, Texas

Absolutely.  School staff must at all times be cognizant of the highly sensitive nature of information regarding a students sexual orientation and gender identity.  School staff must exercise the utmost discretion and professionalism and be respectful of student privacy in discussing these matters.

In contrast to coming out, when a person chooses to disclose their sexual orientation or gender identity, "outing" occurs when someone else tells others that a particular individual is LGBT without that person's permission.  We often don't know what someone's beliefs are or reactions might be, and outing someone may have large repercussions for students.  Although it may be hard to believe, there are students whose emotional and physical safety were jeopardized when school staff outed them to other students and even family members.

WHEN A STUDENT COMES OUT TO YOU...AND TELLS YOU THEY ARE LESBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL OR TRANSGENDER

When a student comes out to you and tell you they are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender (LGBT), your initial response is important.  The student has likely spent time in advance thinking about whether or not to tell you, and when and how to tell you.  Here are some tips to help you support them.

Offer support but don't assume a student needs any help.  The student may be completely comfortable with their sexual orientation or gender identity and may not need help dealing with it or be in need of any support.  It may be that the student just wanted to tell someone, or just simply to tell you so you might know them better.  Offer and be available to support your students as they come out to others.

Be a role model of acceptance.  Always model good behavior by using inclusive language and setting an accepting environment by not making assumptions about people's sexual orientation or gender identity, and by addressing other's (adults and students) biased language and addressing stereotypes and myths about LGBT people.  By demonstrating that you are respectful of LGBT people and intolerant of homophobia and transphobia, LGBT students are more likely to see you as a supportive educator.

Appreciate the student's courage.  There is often a risk in telling someone something personal, especially sharing for the first time one's sexual orientation or gender identity, when it is generally not considered the norm.  Consider someone's coming out a gift and thank them for giving that gift to you.  Sharing this personal information with you means that the student respects and trusts you.

Listen, listen, listen.  One of the best ways to support a student is to hear them out and let the student know you are there to listen.  Coming out is a long process, and chances are you'll be approached again to discuss this process, the challenges and the joys of being out at school.

Assure and respect confidentiality.  The student told you and may or may not be ready to tell others.  Let the student know that the conversation is confidential and that you won't share the information with anyone else, unless they ask for your help.  If they want others to know, doing it in their own way with their own timing is important.  Respect their privacy.

Ask questions that demonstrate understanding, acceptance and compassion.  Some suggestions are:
  • Have you been able to tell anyone else?
  • Has this been a secret you have had to keep from others or have you told other people?
  • Do you feel safe in school? Supported by the adults in your life?
  • Do you need any help of any kind? Resources or someone to listen?
  • Have I ever offended you unknowingly?
 Remember that the student has not changed.  They are still the same person you know before the disclosure; you just have more information about them, which might improve your relationship.  Let the student know that you feel the same way about them as you always have and that they are still the same person.  If you are shocked, try not to let the surprise lead you to view or treat the student any differently.

Challenge traditional norms.  You may need to consider your own beliefs about sexual orientation, gender identity and gender roles.  Do not expect people to conform to societal norms about gender or sexual orientation.

Be prepared to give a referral.  If there are questions you can't answer, or if the student does need some emotional support, be prepared to refer them to a sympathetic counselor, a hotline, your school's GSA or an LGBT youth group or community center.

SOME ADDITIONAL THINGS TO KEEP IN MIND WHEN A STUDENT COMES OUT TO YOU AS TRANSGENDER

Validate the person's gender identity and expression.  It is important to use the pronoun appropriate to gender presented or that the person requests - this is showing respect.  In other words, if someone identifies as female, then refer to the person as "she"; if they identify as male, refer to the person as "he." Or use gender neutral language.  Never use the word "it" when referring to a person, to do so is insulting and disrespectful.

Remember that gender identity is separate from sexual orientation.  Knowing someone is transgender does not provide you with any information about their sexual orientation.

WHAT NOT TO SAY WHEN SOMEONE COMES OUT TO YOU

"I knew it!"  This makes the disclosure about you and not the student, and you might have been making an assumption based on stereotypes.

"Are you sure?", "You're just confused" or "It's just a phase - it will pass."  This suggests that students don't know who they are.

"You just haven't found a good woman yet" said to a male or "a good man yet" said to a female.  This assumes that everyone is straight or should be.

"Shhh, don't tell anyone."  This implies that there is something wrong and that being LGBT must be kept hidden.  If you have real reasons to believe that disclosing this information will cause the student harm, then make it clear that is your concern.  Say "Thanks for telling me. We should talk about how tolerant our school and community is.  You may want to consider how this may affect your decision about who to come out to."

"You can't be gay - you've had relationships with people of the opposite sex."  This refers only to behavior, while sexual orientation is about inner feelings.

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Support, Part 1: Being Visible

One of the key ways to be an ally is to support LGBT students in your school.  In this post I will begin to describe the dos and don'ts of being an ally and over the course of the next four days will discuss four main ways you can be supportive:
  • Being a visible ally
  • Supporting students who come out to you
  • Responding to anti-LGBT language and behaviors
  • Supporting student clubs, such as Gay-Straight Alliances (GSA)
I will begin this four part series with being visible since one of the most important parts of being an ally to LGBT students is making yourself known as an ally.  In order to come to you for help, students need to be able to recognize you as an ally.  Even if students don't come to you directly, research shows that just knowing that there is a supportive educator at school can help LGBT students feel better about being in school.  Making yourself visible can be as simple as displaying a sticker.  It can also be demonstrating and modeling supportive behaviors.  Below you will find some suggestions of how to be a visible ally to LGBT students.

MAKE YOUR SPACE VISIBLE

Make your classroom or office visible as a safe space for LGBT students.  This will help students identify you as someone to come to for support and your space as one where they will be safe.

Post Safe Space materials. Display Safe Space stickers or posters in your classroom or office.  This will let students know that it is a safe space and that you are supportive of LGBT students.

Display LGBT supportive materials.  Post supportive materials such as quotes from famous LGBT icons, information about the LGBT community or materials from LGBT organizations.  Along with signs for national holidays and months of celebration already in the classroom (e.g. Black History Month or Women's History Month), display information about LGBT History Month in October, LGBT Pride Month in June or Ally Week in October.


MAKE YOURSELF VISIBLE

Making yourself visible as an ally will allow students to easily identify you as a supportive educator.

Wear a visible marker.  Wear a supportive button or wristband or even a simple rainbow bracelet.  These will let students know that you are a supportive ally without saying a word.

Let other educators know.  In an ideal world, all educators would be supportive allies to LGBT students.  But the reality is that you may be one of only a few at your school.  Let other educators know that you are an ally and share with them the important role they too can play in supporting LGBT students.


LET YOUR ACTIONS SPEAK FOR YOU

Sometimes your actions can speak louder than any button or poster.  Here are simple actions you can take that will let staff and students know you are an ally.

Make no assumptions.  When engaging with students, or even other staff and parents, do not assume you know their sexual orientation or gender identity.  Don't assume that everyone is heterosexual or fits into your idea of gender roles - be open to the variety of identities and expressions.  In our society, students constantly receive the message that everyone is suppose to be straight.  Show students that you understand that there is no one way a person "should" be.

Use inclusive language.  Through casual conversation and during classroom time, make sure the language you are using is inclusive of all people.  When referring to people in general, trying using words like "partner" instead of "boyfriend/girlfriend" or "husband/wife", and avoid gendered pronouns, using "they" instead of "he/she".  Using inclusive language will help LGBT students feel more comfortable being themselves and coming to you for support.

Respond to anti-LGBT behavior.  Responding to anti-LGBT behavior when it occurs or when you hear about it will let students know that you do not tolerate homophobia or transphobia.  It sends a strong message that anti-LGBT behavior is not acceptable to you and not allowed in your school.

Monday, July 25, 2011

Talking the Talk


"One of the greatest challenges we face on a daily basis is not what students do to one another.  In fact, sadly, it is what is said by some of my colleagues about the students." -Alternative High School Educator, Ohio

One simple yet important way to be an ally is to use LGBT-related terminology accurately and respectfully.  The best way to ensure that you are using the proper language when referring to an individual is to find out the terms they themselves prefer.

Language has a huge impact on the way that we see others and ourselves, and yet, language is constantly changing.  That is why it is important to familiarize yourself and keep up-to-date with LGBT-related terms and concepts.  Begin by completing the "Terminology Match-Up" below.

TERMINOLOGY MATCH-UP


How much LGBT-related terminology do you already know?  On the left is a set of LGBT-related terms, on the right are definitions of these terms.  To test your knowledge, select the matching definition for each term.

1.      Sexual Orientation

2.      Lesbian

3.      Gender Identity

4.      Gender Expression

5.      Transgender

6.      Gay

7.      Gender Non-Conforming

8.      Androgynous

9.      Bisexual

10.  Transphobia

11.  Homophobia

12.  Heterosexism

13.  Queer

A.    The irrational fear or aversion to transgender people or those who are perceived to break or blur societal norms regarding gender identity or gender expression.

B.     The inner feelings of who we are attracted or oriented to sexually or emotionally.

C.     Refers to an irrational fear of or aversion to homosexuality or lesbian, gay or bisexual people.

D.    An identity of a person whose gender identity is not aligned with their sex assigned at birth and/or whose gender expression is non-conforming.

E.     An individual’s physical characteristics, behaviors and presentation that are traditionally linked to either masculinity or femininity, such as: appearance, dress, mannerism, speech patterns and social interactions.

F.      A sexual orientation and/or identity of a person who is female-identified and who is sexually and emotionally attracted to other females.

G.    A sexual orientation and/or identity of a person who is sexually and emotionally attracted to males and females.

H.    Applies to attitudes, bias and discrimination in favor of heterosexual sexuality and relationships.  It includes the presumption that everyone is heterosexual or that male/female attractions and relationships are the norm and therefore superior.  It is the belief that everyone is, or should be, straight.

I.       A sexual orientation and/or identity of a person who is sexually and emotionally attracted to members of the same sex.

J.       How we identify ourselves in term of our gender.

K.    An identity of a person who has gender characteristics and/or behaviors that do not conform to traditional or societal gender expectations.

L.     An umbrella term used to describe a sexual orientation, gender identity or gender expression that does not conform to heteronormative society.

M.   Having the characteristics or nature of both maleness and femaleness; neither specifically feminine nor masculine.
Answer Key: B, F, J, E, D, I, K, M, G, A, C, H, L  

ASK YOURSELF
  • Which terms were you most familiar with? Which were you unfamiliar with?
  • What terms are you most comfortable using? Are there any terms you are uncomfortable using? Why?

Sunday, July 24, 2011

Assessing Your Personal Beliefs


People aren't born prejudiced, so where do these sentiments come from?  From the moment we are born, we are inundated with messages, spoken and unspoken, about different types of people.  Often we learn stereotypes and prejudices without even realizing it.  Some of these messages may have been about ourselves and what we are or are not "supposed to" be.

All of us, LGBT and non-LGBT, have learned messages about LGBT people.  What were the earliest messages you received about LGBT people and where did they come from?  Were they positive, negative or neutral?  Understanding the messages we receive can help us identify our own beliefs and biases that we can then challenge, helping to make us stronger allies.  Use the "Check Yourself" exercise below to explore your own biases.

CHECK YOURSELF: UNDERSTANDING YOUR OWN BELIEFS

Anti-LGBT bias is all around us.  Yet we tend to overlook the subtle biases - the anti-LGBT jokes, the exclusion of LGBT related-themes in curricula, even anti-LGBT name calling.  Subtle or not, bias has the power to hurt and isolate people.  Your work as an ally includes recognizing and challenging your own anti-LGBT bias.  Answer each question honestly, and consider how these will affect your work as an ally to LGBT students.
1.      If someone were to come to you as LGBT, what would your first thought be?
 
2.      How would you feel if your child came out to you as LGBT? How would you feel if your mother, father or sibling came out to you as LGBT?
 
3.      Would you go to a physician whom you thought was LGBT if they were of a different gender than you?  What if they were the same gender as you?
 
4.      Have you ever been to an LGBT social event, march or worship service?  Why or why not?
 
5.      Can you think of three historical figures that were lesbian, gay or bisexual?
 
6.      Can you think of three historical figures who were transgender?
 
7.      Have you ever laughed at or made a joke at the expense of LGBT people?
 
8.      Have you ever stood up for and LGBT person being harassed?  Why or why not?
 
9.      If you do not identify as LGBT, how would you feel if people thought you were LGBT?

Recognizing your own biases is an important first step in becoming an ally.  Based on your responses to these questions, do you think you have internalized some of the anti-LGBT messages pervasive in our world?  How might your beliefs influence your actions as an educator of LGBT students?  The more aware we are of our own biases and their impact on our behavior, the easier it is to ensure that our personal beliefs don't undermine our efforts to support LGBT students. 

Saturday, July 23, 2011

Why be an Ally?

All students are at risk of being bullied, harassed or called names at school, but LGBT students face particularly hostile school environments.  Your visible support for these students can make a real difference in ways that will benefit the whole school.

In order to document the experiences of LGBT students, GLSEN conducts the National School Climate Survey every two years.  From the survey we have learned that anti-LGBT language fills classrooms, hallways, school buses, gyms, and cafeterias.  For example findings from GLSEN's National School Climate Surveys consistently show that nine out of ten LGBT students repeatedly hear the word "gay" used in a negative way and three-fourths of students regularly hear homophobic remarks such as "faggot" or "dyke," in school.  Even more seriously, LGBT students are routinely called names, harassed and bullied in school and will often skip classes or even full days of school because they feel unsafe.  The prevalence of anti-LGBT name-calling, harassment and bullying takes a heavy toll on LGBT students, and can have negative effects on their school performance.  The reported grade point average of students who are more frequently harassed because of their sexual orientation or gender expression is almost half a grade lower than that of students who were less often harassed.

In addition to the damage it can do to LGBT students, anti-LGBT bias also affects other members of the school community.  Anti-LGBT behavior creates a hostile environment and an uncomfortable and unsafe space for everyone.  Homophobia and transphobia can be used to stigmatize, silence and, on occasion, target people who are perceived as LGBT, but are not.  If certain actions and behaviors are deemed "gay," students may avoid them for fear of being targets of anti-LGBT behavior.  For example, a male student may avoid drama class, or a female student may decide not to join the automotive club, just to avoid anti-LGBT bias.

In order to protect all students and allow them the freedom to reach their full potential, we must put an end to anti-LGBT bias and behavior in schools.  Research shows that having supportive school staff has a positive effect on a student's educational experience.  For example, LGBT students with supportive educators were less likely to miss school because of safety concerns and had higher grade point averages than LGBT student with no supportive educators.  When school staff effectively intervene in harassment, LGBT students feel safer and are less likely to miss school.

Allies help LGBT students feel safer and more included in school, resulting in a more positive and successful school experience.  In addition to supporting individual LGBT students, allies challenge anti-LGBT behavior and work proactively to ensure safer, more inclusive schools for all students.

"I have learned that harassment in schools is a norm.  Kids would scream the term "faggot" as they saw me in the halls.  None of the teachers said a word, and that is what scared me...I don't feel safe at my school because I'm gay." -11th Grade Student, North Carolina

SNAPSHOT

Hector was an 11-year-old, straight-identified middle school student who just wanted to be himself.  His classmates thought he was feminine for a boy and began teasing him and calling him names like "faggot" and asking him why he was gay.  Hector told his mother about the bullying at school and she immediately went to the principal's office to have something done.  Unfortunately, the school refused to take any action, stating "it's just boys being boys."  The other students knew his mother had spoken to the principal, which only increased the amount of bullying.  Halfway through the school year, Hector told the school social worker that he couldn't endure the constant bullying and harassment anymore, and that he was thinking about ending his life.

Friday, July 22, 2011

What is an Ally?

An ally is an individual who speaks out and stands up for a person or group that is targeted and discriminated against.  An ally works to end oppression by supporting and advocating for people who are stigmatized, discriminated against or treated unfairly.

For the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) communities, an ally is any person who supports and stands up for the rights of LGBT people.  Allies have been involved in almost all movements for social change, and allies can make a significant contribution to the LGBT rights movement.  It is important for allies to demonstrate that LGBT people are not alone as they work to improve school climate, and to take a stand in places where it might not be safe for LGBT people to be out or visible.  Any educator LGBT or non-LGBT, can be an ally to LGBT students.

ASK YOURSELF:
  • Have you seen examples of anti-LGBT name-calling, bullying, or harassment in your school?
  • How are students affected by anti-LGBT bias at your school?
  • Did you see anti-LGBT bias in school when you were a student? How did it affect you?